Before we knew anything about how marriage works…
And before we were even aware that kissing other people while in a relationship was “wrong”…
Before we knew the feeling of our friend stealing our crush…
…we were victims of cheating in school.
Imagine you’re back in elementary school–you’re in math class taking a test, proud of yourself for knowing the answers after all that studying you did the night before.
Then it happens.
Your teacher calls out your name and the name of the kid next to you.
The entire class turns and stares while your hands sweat and your mind races. The teacher yells at the kid for looking at your paper, and then she yells at you for letting the kid copy off of you.
And just like that, you’re sitting in detention for something you didn’t do or even want to happen.
This has been happening for years, and both girls and boys are guilty of it.
Well, what if I told you that cheating in a relationship is exactly the same?
Though we hear more about men cheating in the news and via word-of-mouth… the truth is, both men and women are guilty of cheating on their partners.
According to a few recent studies, men and women are, in fact, equally likely to cheat.
And as it turns out, there are a few ways you can know if the woman you’re seeing is more likely to cheat on you.
So with that in mind, here are the 3 biggest red flags to watch out for–plus, how to tell if a woman is cheating on you once and for all.
1) Her Age
It’s no secret that infidelity means different things to different people.
While some people think that you’re committed as soon as you start dating… others believe you need to vocalize your relationship before you can consider yourself “off the market.”
However, one big factor that can help you figure out which type of woman you’re dating is her age.
For example, studies have shown that men are more likely to cheat when they have a pivotal birthday coming up.
So the big 5-0 means a bigger chance that a man will try to find an extramarital affair. And apparently, the same is true for women.
As women reach their milestone ages–30, 40, and 50–they tend to seek out more meaning in their lives.
They look back… find things they aren’t happy with… and during these times, they begin to think that a change in their relationship might help.
Another interesting point? For Americans, younger women are less likely to cheat than older women.
There is not yet a clear explanation for this, but studies suggest that because older generations were married during the sexual revolution, they may now be more open with their relationships.
2) Her Emotions
Women have always been seen are more emotionally “connected” to relationships than men.
And in fact, sometimes emotions can play a bigger role for women than the physical aspect of a relationship.
One 2013 study published in Evolutionary Psychology found that while men were more distressed by physical infidelity (AKA sex with another person)… women were more distressed by emotional infidelity.
So, if you’ve ever wondered why your girl gets mad at you for regularly texting and hanging out with another woman–even if nothing physical is happening–recognize that she may see that woman as a threat to your relationship and feel betrayed by you.
Whereas you may be OK with hanging out with other women as long as there is no sex is involved… the same is not necessarily true for women.
In the same vein, emotional affairs are becoming way more common than physical cheating scandals.
According to one study, 35% of women and 45% of men admitted to having emotional affairs. On the other hand, just 20% of people admitted to having a physical affair.
Now, don’t take this as an excuse to have sex with other women and then say, “at least I’m not in love with them like I am with you.” Instead, take this as an opportunity to see a small portion of the inner workings of the female mind.
If you notice that she’s texting one specific person a lot… hanging out with him “as friends”… and confiding in him… then she may be willing to eventually stray.
Which brings me to the final red flag that she may be a cheater…
3) Her History
You know the saying, “once a cheater, always a cheater”?
Well, as it turns out, there’s some truth to it.
These days, it’s becoming more and more common for significant others to return to their partners after cheating. The question is, is it a good idea to take a woman back after she cheated?
One 2017 study suggests that people who are unfaithful in one relationship are up to three times more likely to be unfaithful in their next relationship.
On top of that, people who have been cheated on are apparently twice as likely to be cheated on again.
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Basically, the study found that cheating really comes down to a person’s morals. People who have strong religious backgrounds tend to be more likely to cite morality as a big reason to stay faithful.
So if a woman has cheated before, it doesn’t automatically mean she’ll cheat again–but it does make her more likely to do so.
These red flags can help you figure out if a woman is more likely to cheat… which is great.
But if you’d like to know with more certainty if a woman is currently cheating right now, then just check this out:
Will She Stick By Your Side? Use This Picture Quiz to Find Out The TRUTH…
The 3 signs I just showed you can help you find out if a woman is more likely to cheat… but what if “more likely” isn’t enough?
What if you want to dig a little deeper… and find out if she’s cheating on you for real?
Well, you’re not alone… which is why I helped one of GC’s Community Experts make this quiz that gives you the answer.
Why does it work so well?
As we know, women are:
a) Easily distracted, and…
b) Emotionally unstable. (I’m a woman so I’m allowed to say it! lol)
Therefore, if she sees a “shiny object” (AKA alpha male), she may not be able to resist cheating…
…UNLESS: She’s super into you. Both sexually & emotionally.
Which means you need to know, right now, exactly how “into you” she is.
And that’s what our quiz will help you find out.
It’s based on the true signs a woman wants you, like her eye contact… body language… and other subtle clues… and because it only takes like 45 seconds, it almost instantly lets you know:
“Is she worth my time… or should I move on?”
So if you wanna know the answer, once and for all… then you can check it out right here:
Why Do Women Cheat in The First Place? A Survey of 2,000 Cheating Women Has Finally Revealed The TRUTH…
Recently, Ashley Madison released some mindblowing data about why women cheat.
In case you didn’t already know, Ashley Madison is a dating site for married people looking for some action outside of the marriage. Basically, they would know why people cheat because they’re the ones doing it.
The dating site surveyed more than 2,000 users–and what they uncovered may shock you.
You might assume that women cheat because their sexual needs aren’t being met.
This can be a big source of anxiety for a lot of guys.
Let’s say you’re dating an incredible, completely gorgeous woman.
Maybe, at the back of your mind, there’s a worry that you aren’t keeping her happy in bed.
Or maybe you even compare yourself to strangers, to her friends and coworkers.
Maybe you find yourself thinking:
“That guy’s taller. That guy’s stronger. Hey, that guy’s got more hair!” These thoughts can easily lead to fears about infidelity.
The worries can be even worse if you’ve been cheated on before.
Let us teach you how you can ensure your partner’s fidelity, and put your mind at ease.
While some people cheat because they have unmet sexual needs, that’s not the whole answer.
The truth is much more surprising.
A full 37% of the users surveyed cheated in order to get their emotional needs met!
That means women on the prowl aren’t just looking for the hottest guy around. They’re looking to be loved, valued, and appreciated.
Ashley Madison’s findings support another massive study published in a medical journal.
That study found that cheating most often happened to couples with a weak emotional bond.
Let’s be honest. This is great news for anyone who wants to be in a faithful relationship!
Now that you’ve got a better understanding of why cheating happens, read on to learn how you can prevent it.
So what’s a guy got to do to keep a good thing going?
Here are 3 strategies that will keep your lady by your side far into the future.
1) Make Time Together
Sounds simple, right?
But it’s not! When a relationship starts strong, then fails after several years, it is often because the couple has grown apart.
Maybe you designate one night of the week as date night, and you do something new and fun.
Or maybe you take one weekend getaway a month.
Even a walk in the park when you both get home from work can reignite affection and remind you why you’re together.
Let me put this another way:
You don’t have the time to do romantic activities together. You have to make the time.
I’m guessing when you’re on your deathbed, you won’t be praising yourself for putting in another extra long day at the office.
You’ll be looking back on those romantic afternoons, those bubble baths and pillow fights you had with your lover.
Plus, if your lady is always having fun with you, she won’t have any reason—or any time!—to look for fun and love elsewhere.
2) The Simple Secret That Keeps Her Incredibly Close To You
Talk to her.
Better yet, listen.
Make sure you touch base with her every day. Ask her how her day was, and really listen while she answers. Avoid looking at your phone.
Make eye contact with her, express sympathy when she’s upset, and excitement when she’s excited.
Invest in her life, and be a part of her team.
Who would cheat on their teammate, or their biggest fan?
In addition to talking about your day, you can schedule deeper check-ins.
Take a stroll around a lake or park or go out for hot chocolate, and use the time to share how you’re feeling about the bigger things in your life.
Maybe she experienced a big change at work. You can be there to help her through it.
You can also check in about your relationship. That way, if you’re beginning to notice any little problems, you can quickly solve them together before they lead to cheating.
Make sure you share your feelings with her, too.
While she’ll appreciate it if you listen, she also wants to help you with challenges and celebrate with you.
So don’t hold back! Tell her how you feel.
The more you can share with your partner how you feel about her, the closer you will become.
This might be difficult at first. Our culture doesn’t make it easy for men to talk about their emotions.
But research shows you’ll be happier, healthier, and a more stable lover if you can open up.
You’ll most likely get a faithful partner, to boot.
3) Find A Shared Passion
Maybe you’re already making a point to spend time together and having great talks. You’re way ahead of your competition if that’s the case!
Finding a common passion can be the next step.
Beyond going out for dinner or playing minigolf once a week, if you find something both of you truly love, it will bind you together.
She’ll be so caught up in your shared passion she won’t have eyes for anyone else.
Maybe you can both start learning about art together. Or begin a challenging new type of exercise.
You could both ignite a passion for travel and plan your journeys together.
Whatever passion you find, sharing something important with your partner will see you through trouble and temptation.
But Why Do the Other 63% of Women Cheat?
As you may have guessed… it’s because their sexual needs aren’t being met.
In fact many Gotham community members have written in, with sad tales of their spouses cheating on them because they couldn’t make her come.
Which is a shame, because this isn’t something men are really taught.
Men are just expected to magically know how to get a woman off…
When in reality, most men don’t even know there’s more than one kind of orgasm!
But if you know the different kinds of orgasms women are capable of having, and the ability to give them to her (trust me it’s a lot easier than you think)…
Then guess what?
It’s the easiest way to keep a woman around and loyal to you for the long-run.
Even better, she’s likely to want sex a lot more often!
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on September 25, 2019.]
Published at Wed, 10 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0800