Like a lot of guys, I used to get really nervous before asking a girl out.
Even if it was just a simple text, I’d think of what to say…
Go over each word again & again…
Pump myself up before doing it…
And quite often, when I’d send that text asking her out…
Either she wouldn’t respond, or she’d give me some vague answer that didn’t really mean anything.
Hi, I’m David Dupree, and as part of my new series, I’m answering your most difficult, burning questions related to sex and dating.
And today, I want to show you the truth about asking girls out over text–what works and what doesn’t.
Because honestly, if you follow the right steps… then you can easily get a girl to ask YOU out, and not the other way around.
So let’s get started!
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
Hey, David here–and a lot of guys ask me what to text a girl to get her out on a date.
Let’s face it:
Hot girls have a ton of competition for their time and attention these days.
Between social media, dating apps, and yeah, other guys… so it’s important that you stand out in some way.
When guys ask me what to text a girl to get her out on a date, usually what they think they mean is:
“What can I offer her?”
Most guys tend to disregard their own value and sell a woman the experience.
In other words, they’re trying to sell her something that she wants.
But let me tell you what women really want…
What Do Women REALLY Want?
Women want to be around a guy of quality.
That means that if you have value, women will want to be around you.
So instead of texting a woman trying to offer her something… don’t do that.
Don’t offer her anything.
This is one of the big reasons I say never to offer a woman dinner in the beginning.
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You’re saying, “Food is better than me.”
You should definitely text her–because you need to keep her aware of you–but just text her things that made you think of her…
Or things that you are doing, because they made you think of her…
The key is to not offer her anything directly.
The #1 Mistake Guys Make When Texting Women…
Another mistake guys make when texting women is trying too hard.
They might not offer her something… but they try to sound too important.
“Oh my god, I’m at this amazing party. There’s so many celebrities here, my life is great.”
That just makes you sound like you’re trying to sound important.
Understand that not just because they’re women but because they are human beings–women think that they are the center of the movie they are watching.
That means that when you want her to be interested in the texts you’re sending, you have to make it about her.
So you say, “Oh my god this party is amazing. There’s a C3PO lookalike.”
Why is that interesting to her?
Because you guys already talked about how much she likes Star Wars, that’s why.
Here’s What I’m Getting At…
What I’m trying to say is either because you listened to her…
Because you know about her…
Because she specifically brought up something or because you guys have something in common…
For one of those reasons, that’s the thing that made you think of her.
That’s the thing that connects the text you’re sending to her.
But, nothing in that text should say, “I want to see you.”
Now, understand I’m not saying that’s a bad thing to say.
That’s what I say to my friend who I haven’t seen for a while, or to the woman I’m seeing who I haven’t seen for a while.
I say, “I want to see you. You should come, I want to take you to this thing.”
Because we are close already.
But, if you don’t know if this woman is going to come, don’t offer her stuff to do.
Don’t offer her things, don’t offer her dinner–instead talk about stuff that you’re doing that reminded you of her.
Find private jokes, inside jokes that you guys have together and bring those up because something reminded you of her.
What you’re looking for is for her to say something encouraging. And that’s when she’ll ask you out.
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You are looking to escalate on her positive behavior.
And that means when she says something like, “When are we going to see that? When are we going to do something? Oh, you keep teasing me. You keep tempting me.”
“Alright, yeah one of these days we have to really go out to there.”
That’s her way of offering something to you. She’s giving you a chance.
For me personally, a lot of times, the type of feminine women that I like will often not make the plan.
And that’s fine–I don’t want the woman to necessarily make the plan.
However, a lot of times that type of woman won’t make the plan but she’ll try to help me make it.
She’ll say things like:
“Oh, I love those kinds of things.”
And, “I’d love to go to that kind of show.”
Or, “When you’re going next time let me know.”
Notice, she doesn’t say “take me” because she’s afraid saying that will make you reject her.
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She doesn’t want to make it sound like she’s throwing herself on a date with you.
So instead, she’ll say:
“Oh, I never get asked to things like that. Nobody ever … I never get asked on dates.”
All of those things say she’s giving you an option.
So you can reply:
“What? I would ask you on a date immediately if I thought you’d come.” Or, “What about coffee?”
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Again, I do not go for dinner–don’t sell her anything.
Because that’s already kind of implied.
Even if you end up going to a place where there’s food or a drink–but you’re not there specifically for that–you may end up offering her a drink or coffee.
This “text template” I’m showing you is basically a list of hooks that make her want to hang out with you:
You have that private joke, which may reveal her interests…
Mention it in passing through text…
And next thing you know, she’s mentioning related events and venues and basically asking you out in 10 different ways, without outright saying it.
She’s inviting herself on a date with you.
And here’s how to make it happen every time:
BONUS: This Phrase Gets Her Out on a Date Even Faster…
Everything I just showed you is going to make it WAY easier for you to land a date, and get a hot girl to ask you out…
But there is one more thing you can do to make it even easier:
Use this simple 3-letter phrase in some (but not all!) of your messages.
When you use it, it makes her want to ask you out even MORE… and in fact studies show it gets hot girls to reply 28% faster too.
This phrase not only makes her light up every time her phone goes off with a text from you…
But it dramatically increases the odds of HER asking YOU out:
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on November 25, 2019.]
Published at Mon, 10 Jan 2022 06:00:00 -0800