In just a moment, I’m going to tell you everything you need to know to start meeting and escalating with women in grocery stores…
But first, let me preface this with a bit of back story about myself.
When I was 18 years old, women made me anxious.
So I did what a lot of people do when they suck at something… I did some research and I practiced.
(According to Malcolm Gladwell, it takes 10,000 hours of practice to become successful at something… and while I’m not sure I hit the 10,000-hour mark, I came pretty close.)
I wasn’t old enough to go to bars or clubs at the time, so I had to practice on the streets, in bookstores, and coffee shops.
My location of choice? Union Square in New York City.
I went there every day after class to practice hitting on women. It was perfect, because there was a cool little park just full of all kinds of women–from NYU freshmen to soccer moms.
If I got tired of the park, or if it was cold, there were plenty of other places I could go to try and meet women. There was a big Barnes & Noble bookstore, two Starbucks, and all kinds of other shops.
But there was one place in Union Square that was by far the best place to meet women:
Why Is the Grocery Store a Great Place to Meet Women?
Over the years, I’ve talked to thousands of women out in public during the day, and I’ve gotten more phone numbers (and dates) inside of supermarkets than anywhere else.
As a matter of fact, the first woman to pop my MILF cherry was a stunning 35-year-old lawyer I met in Whole Foods when I was 19 years old.
I know that meeting women at supermarkets sounds weird to some people…
It even made me a little uncomfortable to flirt with women in supermarkets at first.
But it’s like Will Smith says in Hitch: “No woman wakes up saying, ‘God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!’”
As a matter of fact, in this day and age, many women WANT to meet their next boyfriend or husband somewhere random. Think about it for a quick second.
Which do you think a woman would rather tell people:
“We just happened to meet while I was shopping for some groceries. He was just so cute and charming that I gave him my number.”
“We met on Tinder. I thought he was hot so I swiped right.”
So not only do many women want to be swooned and swept off their feet by a charming stranger… but they’re usually easier to talk to in these situations as well.
Women at bars and clubs expect to be hit on, so they have this shield up in those kinds of environments. Women who are just getting some cereal at the supermarket aren’t expecting to get hit on, so there’s less resistance, and you won’t have to work as hard.
But before I tell you exactly what to do, I want to share three tips to make flirting with women at the supermarket a hell of a lot easier.
Beginning with tip #1:
My 3 Top Tips for Maximum Pickup Success in the Grocery Store…
1) Have A Reason to Be There
In college, I just walked into Whole Foods every day, and just hit on girls. I soon discovered this was a bad idea.
My flirting is a bit eccentric–I try to be funny and a little over the top… and that works well at bars, and even with women I meet on the street… but not so much in supermarkets. As a matter of fact, it turns women off.
When I tried flirting with women in supermarkets the way I flirted with college girls at frat parties, I was quickly rejected. What’s even worse is that I didn’t have a basket or anything, so many women would ask me:
“Why are you even here? Are you just trying to pick up women at Whole Foods?”
So if you’re entering a supermarket for the sake of picking up women, just know that many women will be able to tell, and it could really be a turn-off.
However, if you’re there to eat lunch, or if you’re shopping for groceries yourself, then things seem more natural.
Women will be more open to having a conversation, making small talk, and rejection becomes very unlikely.
2) Be Direct
Any chump can tell a girl she’s beautiful at a crowded bar after three or four cocktails, or yell at her that she’s “sexy” while she’s on the street walking away from him.
But it takes a hell of a big pair of nuts to walk up to a woman in broad daylight, look her right in the eye, and tell her you think she’s gorgeous.
When done right, a direct approach like that is enough to get a girl blushing and very interested in getting to know you more.
Here’s the bottom line:
When meeting women in day-to-day situations like this, don’t waste too much time with rehearsed and cheesy pickup lines.
Sure, you can use one or two, but being direct gets much better and faster results.
3) Be Prepared
I’m talking about being groomed, smelling nice, and dressing well.
There’s a Benjamin Franklin quote that has been stuck in my head for years. He once said, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
So before you go out in any situation where you can possibly meet women, put an effort into your appearance.
Stand up straight, make eye contact, shave/trim your beard, shower, put on deodorant, brush your teeth–whatever.
Just make sure you’re presentable.
I can’t tell you how many guys I know who have psyched themselves out of approaching women over the silliest little details.
Don’t give yourself an excuse to chicken out–you’re better than that. So be prepared.
Now that we’ve covered all of that, here are the steps I take when flirting with girls at a supermarket to get her number.
5 Steps to Get #’s in Grocery Stores & Supermarkets
1) Look Good (Hygiene)
Like I mentioned above, make sure you look presentable.
Your clothes should be clean–that means no stains on your jeans or shirt. Your facial hair should also be groomed or shaved.
Also make sure to smell nice. And of course, have a reason to be there.
2) Make the “Right” Eye Contact
I cannot stress how important eye contact is. It will be your biggest tool when talking to women in public.
While you’re walking around the supermarket, try and make eye contact with every woman you come across. If a woman looks away (to the right or to the left), chances are she’s not that interested.
But if she holds eye contact, or (even better) looks down to the ground, then back up, that means she’s at least a little bit curious. And those are the women you want to approach.
If you can’t get a woman to make eye contact with you, just approach her anyway. Remember, you miss every shot you don’t take.
As a rule of thumb, do NOT break eye contact with a woman before she breaks eye contact with you. Think of it like a game. Whoever looks away first, loses.
If you’re feeling confident, flash a smile after she breaks eye contact, almost like you’re letting her know you won.
3) Use Good Body Language
This right here is big.
Women are a hell of a lot better at reading body language, facial expressions, and other nonverbal signals than us guys.
It’s just how their brains are programmed.
So you want to give her the impression you’re a confident man. That’s where the eye contact and the body language come in.
Stand tall, stand straight, and make sure your shoulders are relaxed.
And when you first approach a woman, make sure your feet are not directly facing her. When your feet are pointing at a woman, you are subconsciously communicating that you’re going to be there for a while.
Instead, talk to her with your head facing her, but the rest of your body pointing away.
This will give her the impression that you’re not going to stay for long, and will make her feel more comfortable having a conversation with you.
And that’s because she already believes you’re going to walk away any second.
If she ends up turning her body so her feet are facing you, take this as a sign that she’s into the conversation.
4) Have Relevant Conversation
Sure, if a girl is giving you the eye, and you can tell she’s into you, then you might want to go direct from the start.
Walk up to her and just tell her, “Wow, I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re stunning. My name is ______.”
But if you can’t tell, then start with relevant conversation instead.
Tell her that you’re looking for new recipes and ask if she has any.
Maybe, if you’re new to the area, ask her to name some good restaurants or fun places to go out on the weekends.
If you see a cute girl in the vegetable section, you can even say something like:
“I’m a vegetable virgin. I don’t know much about vegetables, except that I need to eat more of them. What’s your go-to vegetable for meals?”
This isn’t a high-energy environment like a bar or club, so if you jump into the conversation with an “out there” topic and too much energy, you might turn her off and ruin your chances.
5) Let Her Know You’re Interested
At some point, you want to make it known that you’re interested in her. And in this case, the sooner the better.
Here’s what I mean:
A few weeks ago, I was at Whole Foods, and I saw this beautiful blonde in the vegetable section.
I walked up to her and said something along the lines of, “Hey, this is a bit random. I’m trying to eat healthier, so I”m drinking fruit and vegetable smoothies every day. You seem like the fruit expert–got any tips?”
Turns out, she was a bit of a health freak and had a LOT to say. We ended up chatting about all kinds of smoothie recipes for 10 or 15 minutes.
I got her to laugh at a few cheesy jokes, and then in the middle of the conversation I told her:
OK, you’ve been a great help. I’ve learned a lot and I appreciate it. It’s funny because I really just wanted to tell you how cute you are–you’re like Disney princess adorable. But I ended up learning a lot, and I’d like to talk to you more, so give me your number.”
I immediately handed her my phone, and without thinking twice, she typed her number in and told me her name.
As I was telling her all of this, I saw her blush and almost turn away from embarrassment.
I also didn’t give her time to react to my statement, so her natural instinct was just to take my phone and give me her number.
However, you won’t always know when to ask for her number when you’re talking to her.
So what I show you next should help with that:
When Should You Ask For Her Number?
Asking for a woman’s number can be scary, I know… and for a long time I didn’t really know when to ask.
Of course, it always helped to know if she was into me first… though often, I couldn’t really tell… and as I later learned, that’s because of ONE big reason:
Unfortunately, most women won’t straight-up tell you when they’re interested… instead, they drop these little hints.
And reading these hints is nearly impossible if you don’t know what you’re looking for.
However, if you do… then they’re pretty damn easy to spot.
Personally, once I learned how to spot these little hints, my confidence with women skyrocketed. I became more comfortable asking for a woman’s #… and I started spotting more women dropping these hints than I ever thought possible…
In the grocery store…
Out in the streets…
One time, I even saw a sexy nurse practically throwing herself at me while I was visiting my great aunt in the hospital!
And I’m willing to bet that there are girls you know, right now, who are dropping these hints your way… just waiting for you to notice them, and ask them out. 🙂
There are 7 of these hints in particular that I look for… and this guide will show you what they are:
5 Little-Known “Hot Spots” Where Single Younger Women Go to Meet Men…
A lot of guys assume that the only places you can effectively meet women are in places like bars…
Or other high-end evening “hangouts.”
Well, what if I were to tell you that this couldn’t be further from the truth?
A recent survey conducted right here at Gotham Club asked over 1,400 men and women where they go to find romantic partners… and the results were pretty shocking.
So today, I’m going to use the results from our exclusive survey to reveal 5 little-known “hot spots” where you’re most likely to meet the next woman of your dreams… whether you’re interested in something casual or more long-term.
The survey asked the female respondents a whole host of questions. First, the women were asked to list where they currently go to meet guys.
Another interesting question the survey asked was where women would go to meet men in an “ideal world.”
That is, where these women would like to meet men, even if they aren’t meeting them there now.
These are the two questions I kept in mind when making this list–I took the places where the most women are currently going and compared it to where women said they’d go in an ideal world, and analyzed the differences.
Then, I looked at the numbers for men–more specifically, I tried to pinpoint the places where the most women and least men are going.
So with that in mind, here are the 5 best places for you to meet single women right now:
Interestingly, 8% of women go to events to meet men. This may not sound like much, but on top of that, 23.7% of the women said they’d go to events to meet men in an “ideal world.”
But what exactly qualifies as an “event”?
Well, it depends on your environment. If you’re in a big city, for example, an event can be any number of things:
Lectures at colleges…
Meetups (for any kind of subject/interest)…
Art gallery openings…
And so on.
If you live in a smaller town, on the other hand, then try checking out shows at local bars and restaurants. Or if there’s a bustling art scene, then check out the galleries on the first Friday of every month (AKA “First Friday”).
Why would so many women want to meet men at events, though?
It all comes down to serendipity–at an event, the women there already know at least one thing about you. That is, that you share an interest in whatever the event is about.
Plus, meeting a guy at an event has that “It just happened” vibe that so many women seek in a partner.
You may not consider online dating to be a “little-known” hot spot, but the numbers don’t lie — 40% of women currently use the internet to meet romantic partners.
And while 10.8% of women said they’d meet their partner online in an “ideal world,” the reality is that online dating cannot be ignored as a platform in today’s technologically-driven society.
Whether you opt for Tinder, OkCupid, or some other app, the key is to find one that’s both relevant and suits your personality.
For example, a lot of younger women are currently using Bumble, so if you’re interested in meeting a younger woman, then that’s probably worth signing up for.
What does this mean for you?
Well, it means that even if most volunteering events aren’t chock-full of women looking to meet men…
The women who are at these volunteering events are likely much more open to meeting a guy than the women in, say, some random bar.
Your best bet would be to volunteer at women’s rights & animal-related events, where many women go to have fun while they support a great cause.
4) Airports & Abroad
At one point or another, every woman has walked into an airport wondering, “Is today the day I meet a handsome stranger?”
Sure, it might sound cheesy–but according to the survey, 9.4% of women would like to meet their next partner while traveling and abroad.
However, only 1.8% of women say they currently seek romantic partners while abroad… and there’s one big reason for this disparity:
Most women don’t travel for the sole sake of meeting men. Instead, they secretly hope and wish to meet a man the little time they do get to spend traveling.
How can you take advantage of this?
The best thing you can do is to just keep your eyes open–hang out in airport bars…
Start conversations with your seatmate on flights…
And when you get to your destination, don’t forget to try and meet new women there! Whether you’re most interested in a casual fling or a long-term relationship, you never know what you may find.
Finally, the last little-known “hot spot” where single women go looking to meet men is at work.
I know it might sound crazy, but at the end of the day, it makes sense.
Not only do you spend a lot of time with your co-workers, and you likely share several interests… but you also probably live in the same area. These are all factors that contribute to how women seek out and select their sexual partners.
Personally, I’ve fantasized about having a fling with a cute co-worker before too… so if you have a cute female co-worker you’ve been crushing on, then it probably wouldn’t hurt to ask her out for coffee sometime. 🙂
3 Subtle “Tells” That SCREAM She’s Interested In Older Guys…
While a lot of younger women are secretly interested in older guys…
There’s a subset of the population of hot, younger women who ONLY go for older guys.
When you’re able to reliably spot these hot girls who go out hunting specifically for older guys…
It makes things a lot easier on you, since they really want you to talk to them…
They want you to take them somewhere more private…
And yeah, they want you to tear their clothes off and bang them senseless!
In my experience, the easiest way to spot these hot girls who are hopelessly into older men are these 3 “tells.”
Once you see them, you know for sure that she’s really into older guys.
So it makes things a lot easier–she’ll get a lot closer to you, make it easier to talk to her, and sometimes she’ll even start the conversation with you.
But first things first… here are these 3 “tells” that she desperately wants an older guy to bang her senseless:
P.S. If she’s REALLY into older guys and DTF that night… she’ll do THIS…
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on November 27, 2019.]
Published at Wed, 12 Jan 2022 06:00:00 -0800